A customer came in to Tim Horton’s today who looked like Jon Snow but had a Russian accent, and I felt like I was talking to Dimitri Belikov. I think I instantly fell in love with him and now I want to reread the Vampire Academy novels all over again. If only I hadn’t rambled on like an idiot… oh well.
I saw this video on Facebook recently which had a woman trying to break women’s common thought that their body is not beautiful. I must admit, she made a good point, so much so that I believe her and agree. But then I thought harder about it and realized that it’s not just the individual that needs to change, but a whole society. I work at Tim Horton’s and as part of that job I have to wear a uniform which they provide. I am a size 16 pants (to Tim Horton’s anyway) and it took 2.5 days to get them to the store I work at, during which time I could not work and caused a lot of frustration for my supervisor. Now, you could imagine my distress when I actually wanted a size larger because I could not physically bend over in the pants without wanting to puke. But did I say anything? No. Why? Because I am embarrassed. It already took a lot of effort jus to get the size I have, but to ask for another size? that would take even longer, causing more frustration, and resulting in more embarrassment for me because I had been the source of it and have to admit that I am that big. We, the individual, are being unconsciously or unintentionally pressured by society in little ways like this to conform to very limited spectrum of what is acceptable and what is not, both in body and behavior. It is so deeply ingrained in our society that we don’t even realize when it’s being done to us, or worse: when we are doing it to others. We also have to stop saying things like “inner beauty” because that implies that their outer self is not beautiful. Instead we should just say ”you are beautiful” and not distinguish between inside or out. If women are to believe that they are beautiful, no matter what their size, then it is going to take a whole society to do it.